That is a good way of thinking about it!
What a gorgeous photo.
That is a good way of thinking about it!
Don't roll your eyes at yourself; that sounds really difficult. Have you spoken to anyone about L's birth? 3 hours is a very long time to be pushing and, between that and the prolapse, it's completely understandable that doing it again feels frightening. I don't think for a minute you will "make a mess" of pushing, but your concerns about it affecting you mentally/emotionally are valid. FWIW (not a lot) it seems to be accepted rhetoric amongst midwives that 2nd births are usually the most straightforward, moreso than subsequent ones even, and that can be healing after a difficult first birth, but obviously there are no guarantees. You can change your mind at any point, also, but it would be easier to cancel a planned section and decide to go for a vaginal delivery than the other way round.Tits McGee wrote: ↑Tue Jun 22, 2021 2:28 pm Yes, I was pushing for hours (at least 3, maybe more) with L and I have wondered if that’s partly what caused my prolapse. I’ve also spent the last 8 years avoiding putting any pressure on my pelvic floor (no running, jumping or lifting anything heavy, bracing when I cough or sneeze, taking a daily laxative to avoid any straining ) and it’s just become really deeply ingrained. I had an examination recently because I was feeling a lot of pressure and was worried the prolapse was worse, and the doctor asked me to push as if I was pushing a baby out and I ended up bursting into tears after a few attempts.
I have no idea why because I haven’t had a single emotional moment this pregnancy so far, but this made me well up
That's brilliant, Tits. I'm so glad you saw supportive people. And great news that the scan was all good; even when there's no reason to worry, it's always a relief, isn't it?Tits McGee wrote: ↑Wed Jun 23, 2021 9:13 pm Thanks Lora, my appointment went really well thanks. I didn’t see your message beforehand, but I saw a lovely midwife and registrar who said pretty much exactly what you did and made me feel so much more relaxed about everything. They left me feeling much more positive about my body’s ability to cope with another birth, and have given me some information about caesareans if I decide I want to go down that route. I’ve been booked in for a section, on the basis that I don’t have to decide now and it can always be cancelled in future. The slightly intimidating consultant was on holiday, and I’m quite glad of that because the appointment was nothing like what I was expecting. Oh, and the scan went well and the baby is growing nicely.
(I expect it's another realisation of how awesome your daughter is.)