I know Ella, Mr Is, my Sister, everyone is telling me that I need to put an end to it and I do want to.
FML
- Penny Century
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This is unfortunately a bit of a risk with local volunteer/mutual aid type groups. There's not the same protections for volunteers as there are with more established third sector support services. If there is a co-ordinator (I guess there must be, as you were given his details) could you ask them to get in touch with him?
- Ismee
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Ok so there has been a development.
I sent a message on the Covid 19 WhatsApp group and asked for the details of the organiser. I phoned her and had a really good chat. She asked me to get his permission to pass his number to her as another of the volunteers who started the group works in social care and she agrees that it's too much for me.
I called him and explained and he kept asking me if I would continue to do his shopping as he is used to me and trusts me and I said that I wouldn't do it forever as it was a temporary arrangement. He asked if he'd done something wrong and I explained him that I just felt he needed more help.
So anyway, I've passed his number over and hopefully it will get sorted and I'll be able to step away and he'll get the help he needs!!!
I sent a message on the Covid 19 WhatsApp group and asked for the details of the organiser. I phoned her and had a really good chat. She asked me to get his permission to pass his number to her as another of the volunteers who started the group works in social care and she agrees that it's too much for me.
I called him and explained and he kept asking me if I would continue to do his shopping as he is used to me and trusts me and I said that I wouldn't do it forever as it was a temporary arrangement. He asked if he'd done something wrong and I explained him that I just felt he needed more help.
So anyway, I've passed his number over and hopefully it will get sorted and I'll be able to step away and he'll get the help he needs!!!
- sally maclennane
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I'm glad its sorted, Is! You are a good person x
Christ on a bendy bus son, don't be such a fucking faff arse
- Pippedydeadeye
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Well handled, Ismee.
- Heebie Jeebie
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That's the trouble isn't it? I'm glad you found a resolution too, it's so difficult to say no at the best of times and even worse when it is/has been a crisis situation and you actively volunteered to help. But you still don't owe anyone anything other than the basic courtesy of being clear about your intention to stop.
- Tits McGee
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Oh Ismee, I came out in a cold sweat reading that! I'm glad you've sorted it out.
I've got ham, but I'm not a hamster
- Ismee
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Thank you Lora.
This morning I went for a walk and a coffee with my neighbour. I started telling her about this man and she was really shocked as it turns out her daughter has been dealing with him too! She said that he rings her all the time and she has also bought him vodka and brandy. He has asked her to do some hoovering for him and also to help him go out for a walk and she refused both those things.
She was put in touch with him through an NHS voluntary group and even phoned his GP once and tried to get them to help him.
So strange. I haven't heard anything from him today so I'm hoping the group have contacted him and are dealing with him now.
This morning I went for a walk and a coffee with my neighbour. I started telling her about this man and she was really shocked as it turns out her daughter has been dealing with him too! She said that he rings her all the time and she has also bought him vodka and brandy. He has asked her to do some hoovering for him and also to help him go out for a walk and she refused both those things.
She was put in touch with him through an NHS voluntary group and even phoned his GP once and tried to get them to help him.
So strange. I haven't heard anything from him today so I'm hoping the group have contacted him and are dealing with him now.
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Yeah, I found out pretty quickly from the tea parties that not all elderlies are apple cheeked old dears We know how many piss takers there are out there so I don't know why I thought they might mellow with age! My dad would have behaved exactly like that, for one.