Well, we introduced the potty way back when in about 1974 and he steadfastly ignored it or actively refused to sit on it. We intermittently kept trying, also looked out for the signs and for him showing an interest but he didn't give us much to work with
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. Eventually at 3y 2m I thought we better just try anyway. Obviously by then he had reasonable verbal skills etc. In the first week it became evident he had excellent control because he'd reluctantly sit on the potty, not go, then we'd give up and he'd walk around the corner and immediately piss all over the floor
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. He also took himself away if he was pooing in his nappy (or pants) so he knew what he was doing and wanted privacy for it.
Anyway, after about a week of this I lost it a bit, I knew he needed a wee so I manhandled him onto the potty and instructed him to stay there. He cried, I cried. He tried to get off loads of times, I very firmly told him to stay on it
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and after about 40minutes he cracked, took a piss on the potty. We praised him like he was the 2nd coming, stickers, etc etc. The next time was similar but lasted about 10 minutes, then 5 minutes. After which he just voluntarily used the potty. Couple of timing accidents but otherwise quite easy after that. Within about 2 weeks he'd use an adult toilet with assistance if we were out and used one of those rings on the loo at home.
All kids are different, my nephew is a different kettle of reluctant, but my point is a lot of kids don't show much in the way of signs and sometimes being a bit firmer can be the way to crack it.