Time For A Change

[Hazey_Jane]

Fingers and toes crossed Skip!

[rosy]

Everything crossed for you, Skips.

[Annabella]

Well done Skips - sounds like you did the right thing - fingers crossed for you.

[Duophonic]

Everything crossed, skips

[Estrella]

Good luck, Skips

[emma_p]

Your friend sounds great! Well done Skips, I have everything crossed for you.

[Smunder Woman]

Fingers crossed!

[bramblerose]

Good luck Skips!

[Dutchie]

Well done Skips, sounds like you said exactly the right things. Good luck!

[Skips]

I didn't get it. They said want someone with more experience in people management. Which I never said I had or was on my CV. Feels like a massive waste of my time.

[wendy james]

Eugh, how frustrating! I'm sorry.

[Skips]

I could type so mucn right now, but none of it is good for my mental health. Instead I'll type this which is pointless but better than I want to say.

[Marth]

Ah sorry. Skips. That's really pants.

[Skips]

The thing is I wonder if I'm not getting any interest in my CV due to being too experienced but this isn't the first time I've applied for some kind of move up and I've not got it. And it's always lack of experience (I'm not sure where I'm meant to get that from).

[Beena]

I'm sorry Skips. That is just rubbish. It does sound like you made all the right noises too. This might be the last thing you want to do, and maybe you have already, but if not, is it worth asking for detailed more feedback, maybe around where your examples didn't quite hit the mark. To be honest, I wouldn't see it as a waste of time either. Shit experiences with the wrong team prepare you for the right opportunities. :(

I'm toying with the idea of taking yet another pay cut and applying for a role below my current grade. It's frustrating as I had to take a cut when we moved, despite moving into a more senior role. It would be a move out of my sector, but hopefully allow me to then go on to other things. There are no opportunities in my field as I am - not without completely relocating again.

I'm wearing so many different hats that I can't see straight most days, and now there's talk about my picking up yet another. Each area requires specific expertise and while I'm the queen of bullshit, I just want to be good at my job. Singular. I used to be really good at my job.

[Chicky]

I did something similar a few years back Beena and I loved it. I also started compressing hours to have Fridays off. Because it was a pay grade down I found it was easy to perform well, and I also dropped all my management so only had to think about me. It was bliss. Until they restructured and promoted me to a management position again :verm:

If the financial penalty isn’t prohibitive then I’d go for it, life is too short to spend your time being treated like shit like your place do.

ETA it also really helped me with my confidence, I’d been ground down in previous roles and it made me realise I was actually good at something.

[Smunder Woman]

I think that sounds like a good plan, Beena. Fingers crossed!

[Skips]

I don't see there is any point Beena. They said they want someone with more people management experience and unless I lie there isn't much I can do about that. I haven't managed people in any capacity.

And while I understand all interviews are experience I didn't apply for this job, they approached me after an interview for another role and I saw them another two times (once zoom and then again face to face) before they said no. For something I never had and isn't on my CV. So yes, I do view it as a waste of not just my time, but my friend who spent time going through my CV and helping me with possible questions/asking more leading questions (as she knows me) so I could properly prep. And if I got proper feedback, regarding possible bad answers I'd given I could work with that. This, there is nothing to say.

My resilience is really low at the moment, but changes here and the threat of redundancy, I feel sick every day. We claim universal credit and without my income we wouldn't have enough coming in to pay the bills, let alone eat so I need to get into something potentially more secure.

[Beena]

I can hear how low you sound, Skips and I didn't mean to downplay that. If you were feeling stronger, I'd still be tempted to ask for better feedback, simply because they did approach you, because they have had you jumping through hoops and the feedback you've received is a cop out. Completely get that you probably just want to burn them all down at the moment and I don't blame you.

I remember that, Chicky. And how happy you were to step back down.

I've had a really bad morning, nothing huge, just lots of tiny annoyances that make an already difficult situation a bit more so. It's just the overall volume of it - have a nibble of this shit sandwich, and a little nibble of this one too, and here's another, and another. I ended up sitting in the car at lunch, having a bit of a cry. I'm going to keep an eye out. The vacancy I'm looking at is one I could do, but I'm not sure it's one I want to do beyond it being a possibly stepping stone.

[Skips]

I have a job offer! It's for a customer admin type role but they want someone that wants to progress.

I also have to drive past the above job to get to my new office so I'll flick them the Vs as I drive by.

It's slightly better pay, more holidays and a shorter commute so even without the progression possibilities it's a no brainer really. I'll start the beginning of September.