Veneers

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Kenickie wrote:
Thu Mar 12, 2020 11:24 am
Like I said, I don't know that much about BDD but isn't it not so much that it's always entirely imaginary but more that it's a disproportionate reaction?
Yep, that's absolutely it. All of the patients I've seen have been fixed on an ordinary "flaw" but see it as disproportionately ugly/deformed/noticeable. Its almost never been about purely imaginary defects/flaws. After all, we are all flawed or a bit wonky in our appearance!

Your therapists advice sounds v sensible.

(also, when you point out small/normal flaws to people, they often say "Oh yeah, I see what you mean". But that's because they've never noticed it before and you have just made them inspect that area of your face in detail. If you stare at yourself/others close enough, for long enough, you will find wonkiness)

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Also; if/when people point stuff out like that to me, I always agree just to be polite ish when, really, I can't see what they're talking about.

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I guess so, like when you see someone has a spot but only because they've gone: "LOOK! LOOK AT MY SPOT!"

I am feeling a bit guilty about having my mole removed. I know I've had it done for totally the wrong reasons and it's not really a big deal, but it has made me feel a bit odd. I've never had proper physical surgery for a non-medical reason before. I was thinking "What else can I get done? What else?"
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I think getting a mole removed would count as reasonably proportionate; on its own. But its almost entirely risk-free, quick, easy etc. And it isn't just one part of a list of things that I'll fix whatever it takes. I think that might be the difference. Certainly very different to jaw surgery or destroying your teeth, they seem more disproportionate.

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Even I think the amount of work involved is disproportionate and I got the feeling the orthodontist agreed although she wouldn't try to convince me either way.

I need to accept that things are not perfect. The mole being removed reminded me of that Nathaniel Hawthorne story, The Birthmark, and how by trying to improve myself I can actually wind up rubbing myself out. I will get my teeth whitened but that's it.

I'm actually going to buy a handbag with the first payment I would have put down on my teeth. I think my grandparents would approve of that a lot more.

A lot of the posts on here have resonated particularly about not being perfect. So, thank you all for your replies. They have helped enormously.
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You're doing brilliantly, Lily, I wish I had the same bravery to actually re-look at my habits/behaviour sometimes. The easiest thing in the world is to just go along with them when they make you feel good in the short term!

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Thank you! I don't think it's brave so much as figuring out what does and doesn't make you happy, and being able to spot patterns.
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This is the last thing on anyone's mind now, but I've been watching back a few videos of me speaking and I can't see anything wrong with my teeth at all. So, no veneers, no braces - I'll get them whitened, but that's it.

Weird how these things work out.

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Hurrah! You are beautiful Lily Louise Turtle, I'm glad you're feeling better about your teeth.

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Brilliant! You have perfectly lovely natural teeth.

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Good lass. 😘

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Well done Lily

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Hurrah :bel:.

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Thank you for the update Lils. I’m glad you can see what we do
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Really pleased to read this.
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Oh! Now, I'm not sure how I missed this but this is wonderful news!

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I'm really pleased to read this, Lily. :hug:

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